“What we see depends mainly on what we look for.” - John Lubbock
This is an extremely powerful quote as it puts us in the driver's seat of life - We are all at choice! We have the power to be happy, to be successful. It lies within our choices, our beliefs, our thoughts and values. Happiness is not a destination, but rather a habit. It is a choice we make through our habitual perceptions. It is the language we use, not only that we speak, but also what we think. In his book ‘The Secrets of a Millionaire Mind’, T. Harv Eker points out that “Thoughts lead to feelings. Feelings lead to Actions. Actions lead to results.” So what are some actions we can take to begin creating healthy habits for happiness?
Distance yourself from negativity.
The most important thing with negative people or things is boundaries, no matter the situation. If there is someone in your life that is bringing you down, or that constantly hangs their shit on you, let them know - your intention is to better yourself, and if they’re not on board, things are going to change. Successful people surround themselves with others who are successful. Negative people surround themselves by who - other negative people. You ever hear the phrase ‘misery loves company’? Don’t do it, and don’t indulge it. Distance yourself from it as much as you can.
Let go of the need to be liked, or the need for approval from others. Being a people pleaser often dilutes your authentic self, everyone is different and the reality of things is that we cannot please everyone. I was told something once- at the end of the day, no one else has to live my life but me. No one else has to deal with the consequences of my choices except for me. And because we are all different, what may work for one person may not work for another. That being said, do you. The more you live for someone else, the more tension builds between the ‘you’ you are pretending to be, and the true you. So follow your True North.
Let go of the need to control everything. There are so many extraneous variables in life. We cannot control the consequences of something that we had no part in creating, but we can influence them. The serenity prayer asks us to change the things we can and accept those of which we cannot and the wisdom to know the difference. So instead of focusing on what we cannot change, focus on what you can - start a butterfly effect. Any self help book will tell you that it starts with you first. Michael Jackson sang about the man in mirror. Understand what you can control and take the steps you need to make those changes you’re seeking, everything else will fall into place.
Manage your expectations. Perfection is subjective, and patience is a virtue. We have a picture in our mind of what things are supposed to be, and the truth is, that may not be reality. This sometimes limits what can actually be. Success magazine quotes it as “seek knowledge, not results.”
Dream Big. Some of us were told when we were kids that we could be whatever we wanted when we grew up. And then we grew up and we were told we had to conform. Somewhere along the way our dreams became smaller and we paid into the idea that we didn’t deserve or couldn’t achieve big anymore. So we settled for mediocrity. Please don’t think I’m saying this to criticize or offend anyone. Think of it this way - if we have the power to manifest the things we want, why are we going to settle. Dream big and you can achieve big. Dream small, and you will achieve small.
Stay grounded and keep balanced (not calm). Being grounded is being focused; being mindful, get excited, get obsessed. Let go of the past, be hopeful for the future and stay within the present moment. When you’re obsessed with something, you don’t let anything get in your way, do you? When you’re grounded in your thoughts, centered in your soul, life is a bit easier. But just remember, balance is the key to everything. When you’re considering eating healthy - moderation is the key. So why should life be any different.
So what is your intention?
What does being happy mean for you?
What does wellness and balance mean to you?
What are you doing to create this?
We start where we are and go from there.
Be well. Be Great.
These days it’s hard to make it past most social interactions without having your exact birth time and location memorized so you can recall it at the drop of a hat when pulling astrological charts, your Human Design, your astrocartography, etc. So what happens to those who don’t have access to it for some reason? They’re forced to just be out there raw dogging life without knowing their Rising sign, Human
Design Type, and which cities their Venus line runs through?? Not if I can help.
It’s not terribly uncommon for people to not have access to their exact birth time on their birth certificate (which is needed for max accuracy in pulling most charts related to astrology) for several reasons:
1. An inaccessible birth certificate. Sometimes parents lose things, I get it.
2. Being born in a country that doesn’t record exact birth times.
3. Being adopted and not having access to your original records.
4. Documents lost in a move, marriage, etc.
While I’d say most people are typically able to find theirs, it’s hard to think of leaving anyone out of the knowledge of these systems because of any of the above reasons. Fortunately there are multiple steps you can attempt to recover a lost birth certificate or an unknown birth time. See below:
1. Start by checking the family safes or photo albums to find your original birth certificate. As much as we love our Moms (thank you for birthing us!!) and want to trust their memory, please try to fact check their recalled time of birth for you (I can’t tell you how many times these guesses end up being off).
2. If you know for sure you don’t have your original birth certificate, or your duplicate one doesn’t list your exact birth time, you can request a new one. Try contacting your birth state or territory’s vital records office. You can also go to sites like nationalrecords.org or ancestry.com to search for them there.
3. Try contacting your birth hospital to see if they have your birth time details on record. Especially if you were born in a time of decent technology, there’s a good chance it’s recorded and stored digitally somewhere.
4. If you call somewhere like the vital records office or birth hospital, sometimes they can just verbally give you the birth time without needing to request a new birth certificate.
5. If you absolutely can’t locate your birth certificate or were born in another country where they didn’t record exact birth times, you can try relying on a parent’s account of it, or you can look into getting a birth time rectification. This is performed by a Vedic Astrologer and you can read more about what the process entails here.
6. If all you have to go off of is a loose time of day (i.e. early morning, or “sometime around 10am”), we can try pulling your Human Design chart using a close enough time and ask a couple of clarifying questions to see if your Design is resonating. Please reach out to me directly and I’ll work with you as best I can!
7. Similar to the Enneagram, I think it’s possible to look at the different Energy type description in Human Design and choose which one resonates the most with you (specifically noting the Not-Self and Signature feelings). Since your Type is the most important and impactful element of your chart anyways, if this is all you have to work from and you don’t get access to the gates, channels, etc, I still believe this would be incredibly impactful for you.
8. Trust the information and insight that is meant for you will find you. Not knowing your birth time or your full astrological chart isn’t going to alter the course of your life. These are tools here to help provide insight into who you are and how to best navigate this life, but only if they’re actually serving you and giving you confirmation to the things you’re already feeling in your soul. I fully believe we all have access to divine wisdom and direction inside of us, and following that over everything is what will lead you to what’s right for you. If you find a system or tool that supports you in that, great. But it is in no way required to live the most full and whole life you can dream up and create for yourself.
I hope some of this was helpful for you, and if you have any questions or want me to walk you through some steps to see if we can determine your Human Design without a birth time, don’t hesitate to reach out to me directly to ask!
And if you do have access to your birth time and would like to dive deeper into your Human Design, I would love to connect!
